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X ~ eXamine Your Positives

John Polo (http://www.betternotbitterwidower.com) started integrating x-ExAMINE YOUR POSITIVES soon after his young wife, Michelle, died from cancer. Here he shares a small snapshot of his life-rebuilding with the A2Z community

John and his wife, Michelle

I woke up, I pushed through the pain and sadness, and I honored her in a unique but rewarding way. Sipping on my morning coffee, I put pen to paper and wrote a thank-you letter to the hospice staff and included one of my favorite pictures of Michelle and my stepdaughter on it. I also wrote a small donation check out to the amazing facility that did so much for my wife, our entire family and (especially) myself. I drove 35 minutes to the donut shop and picked up two dozen, plus one. Then I drove 45 minutes to the hospice center.
I walked into hospice, donuts, thank-you letter and donation check in hand, and asked the receptionist if I could head to the back. As I got to the back, I saw my favorite nurse. I was so excited to see her. She seemed super excited to see me, too — although I think a majority of that excitement may have been over the donuts I handed to her. From the moment I put that pen to paper to write that thank-you letter until the moment I left the building after delivering two dozen donuts, I had hope. A sense of purpose. “Hope and purpose? How did you have hope and purpose? You just delivered some donuts?” You might be thinking this. It wasn’t just about a couple of boxes of donuts. You see, when Michelle was dying, she would often say to me, “I don’t want everyone to forget me, John.” I would assure her I wouldn’t let that happen. Whether it is through my blog, my Facebook page, my upcoming book, or a couple of boxes of donuts, nobody is going to forget Michelle. Now, I’m putting the computer down. I told you I bought 25 donuts. I only gave 24 away. I’m going to go stuff my face with one right now. A glazed buttermilk. As Michelle would say, “They are the bomb.” Yes, she still used the phrase “the bomb.” Apparently my wife never left the year 1999.

Click here to read John Polo’s entire blog entitled,

HOW 25 DONUTS HELPED ME TURN MY GRIEF INTO HOPE